Hello there !
 
How are you doing ?
I hesitated for quite a while before sending an email about the current situation… because I personally feel overwhelmed by the amount of information (and fake news !) which we are all receiving at the moment.  But in the end, here it is ! You obviously can decide whether or not you want to read it.

What I have seen so far is that some people are actually feeling quite fine with what is happening worldwide, others are going through a mix of emotions, and others have entered into a rollercoaster of anxiety, panic, sadness etc, and don’t seem to be able to get out of it.


Let’s be clear. In my opinion, some people have been preparing for this for a few months, even a few years already. Of course they didn’t know exactly what was going to happen, but they have done some work on themselves, they know themselves, their wounds, their weaknesses and their strengths. It does not mean that they are not surfing the waves of emotions but maybe they are able to welcome them and trust the experience.
For others, it might be quite a shock! Like for every accident, serious illness, loss, crisis, burnout, etc. they don’t know how to deal with it, react, behave, and handle what’s happening.
What I would like to tell you is this : it’s not the end, for anyone. Every crisis is an invitation to “transform”… it doesn’t need to be some radical or amazing change, it can be a small realisation, a small step, some help to make a decision, etc.

This crisis is a collective one, but it doesn’t mean that we can’t make choices individually. Yes we are limited in terms of physical space but not with our mind, body and energy !
We always have a choice, even when we are not conscious of it. We can choose to keep ourselves busy, to play the victim, to have fun, to learn, to stop, to enjoy, to process, to become very creative, to panic, to cry, to laugh, to sing, not to do anything, to think, to be inspired and inspiring, to get frustrated, to scream, to look at ourselves and the world, to listen, to question ourselves, to be hopeful, to be ok with not knowing, to become more conscious, to wish for the best, to imagine the worst, etc.

We are allowed and it’s totally okay to go through these different phases… What we need to do though is to see what is helping us and what is actually making us feel worse, in order not to remain stuck.
 
In fact, the way to approach this is the same as usual: stop, observe, breathe, be with the silent and the void, allow yourself to feel everything and ask yourself: “what do I need? What brings me joy? What bring me lightness of being?” without looking and what others are doing or comparing yourself as not everyone is at the same stage of the process. And that’s ok!

Yes, I know, that we might not like what we are feeling: void, loneliness, and silence force us to look at our suffering, our fears, our angers, our sorrows, etc. But it’s only when we welcome these that we can heal them. We have this choice now. We can either keep sleeping in front of TV or on social media or awaken to what is and what we are deeply in our hearts and bodies, day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment.
 
So how are you ? What is your choice right now ? What do you need ? Do you manage to stop and listen to yourself ? Let me know by email!
 
If you are not able to stop then have some fun trying out things (and it’s ok to fail !), checking in with yourself before and after.
For instance :
-Do I feel better or worse after spending two hours on the internet ?
-Do I feel better or worse after speaking with a friend on the phone?
-Do I feel better or worse after cooking something good ?
-Do I feel better or worse after crying for an hour ?
-Do I feel better or worse after meditating ?
-Do I feel better or worse after moving my body?
Etc.
There is no trick in these questions. And there is no right or wrong answer. Only YOU can know what helps you.


Oh believe me I know it’s not easy. Every crisis and change require courage. And right now everything is coming to the surface more strongly. The bad news is that it can be very violent. The good news is that it is clearer and easier to recognise what needs to heal and what works for you.

At  the beginning of the year, I made myself a promise : do things from a place of joy and love, or not do them at all. It sounds simple, doesn’t it ? It’s a fast way to sort out what you want to do.
Well… in fact with all our « obligations », the way our current system and society work, people’s opinion, etc., it can actually be challenging.
I’ll give you an example: since the beginning of the confinement, I’ve ben asked and told i don’t know how many times to show up more online. Except everything I’m feeling emotionally and physically is telling me NO !
I am not going to lie to you, my mind went a bit crazy… Of course I want to contribute, help, support, share my skills. But what I have been observing is that we all rushed into transferring everything we usually do online without taking a step back. And now we have 10 times more information and offers to deal with and it’s getting harder and harder to sort out.

On a personal level (and this is true for me, it might not be for you), I feel this situation is an invitation to continue the deceleration process I started over 1,5 year ago. And even if I do feel a bit guilty, I know for sure that I will not be helpful by doing 10 times more. I prefer quality. I prefer to work with one person at a time, with all my heart and attention.


I don’t have all the answers. And you know what? Nobody does ! But it’s ok ! It’s the perfect opportunity to trust yourself, and to embrace uncertainty.

And if you do feel the need to be supported in this process… You know I would be more than happy to be there for you.
To book a session you can go here

I wish you well.
Lots of love,
Sylvie

 

Le temps cet hiver a été assez surprenant, une sorte d’invitation à s’adapter de plus en plus aux changement rapides et drastiques. Du chaud au froid, du gel à la douceur, de la neige à la pluie, des giboulées au grand soleil, du vent agité au calme. Une belle métaphore de la vie que l’on traverse, avec ses hauts et ses bas, ses moments de joie et ses moments difficiles, ses pics d’énergie et ses fatigues.
Le changement de temps et de température soudain et constant peut être assez néfaste pour notre santé, car cela demande beaucoup d’énergie au corps de s’adapter constamment, et cela va bien sûr impacter notre manière de gérer et digérer nos émotions et les aléas de la vie.

Avoir conscience du changement énergétique
En occident, le printemps démarre officiellement le 20 mars, mais en médecine chinoise, il a déjà commencé. C’est parce que la médecine chinoise considère qu’il y a 5 saisons, reliés à 5 éléments, et qu’elles sont basées sur l’aspect énergétique de ces éléments. Cela signifie tout simplement, que pour nous tout comme pour la nature, le potentiel à s’ouvrir, fleurir et à s’épanouir arrive énergétiquement avant de se matérialiser concrètement.
Il est donc primordial en ce changement de saison d’apporter de l’attention à sa santé, et de prendre soin de soi afin que cette transition se fasse le mieux possible.

Se reposer et écouter son corps
A l’arrivée du printemps, on expérimente souvent un changement d’humeur : plus de soleil, plus de temps dehors, un sentiment d’ouverture, de renouveau, d’espoir et de joie. C’est super ! Mais il se peut aussi que nous nous sentions très fatigués. Et en fait c’est complètement normal. L’énergie ne suit pas et on se demande pourquoi : les jours augmentent très vite et notre corps doit se réhabituer. Nous avons aussi vidé nos ressources pour « résister » à l’hiver. Notre système immunitaire est bas et notre stock de vitamine D aussi. C’est la fin de l’hibernation mais comme nous fonctionnions au ralenti pendant l’hiver, nous avons besoin de temps pour nous réveiller, comme la nature.
On accepte plus facilement la fatigue lors du passage de l’automne à l’hiver : on a souvent un petit coup de déprime mais comme les jours diminuent on accepte notre besoin de repos et on va se coucher plus tôt, on dort plus. Pourtant on devrait vraiment apprendre à se reposer également quand le printemps arrive et à ne pas se surmener et risque de tomber malade parce qu’on est « censés » se sentir bien.
Par exemple avec la durée des jours qui augmente on pourrait croire qu’on a moins besoin de sommeil. Pourtant bien dormir et dormir suffisamment est primordial pour rester en bonne santé. Peut-être même se coucher un peu plus tôt si on est fatigué, et respecter nos cycles, d’écouter et de faire confiance à notre corps plutôt que de résister et de lutter.

Accepter, accueillir  et s'écouter
Donc, en gros, comme pour tout moment difficile, émotions délicates, pertes, changements, la clé est l’acceptation et l’accueil. Laisser aller les « je devrais » « il faut que » et écouter nos sensations physiques. Je ne suis pas en faveur des dogmes et des extrêmes et je pense que tout le monde est différent et doit apprendre à savoir ce qui fonctionne pour lui. Bien sûr il est essentiel de se nourrir de manière saine et de bouger son corps, mais ce qui me convient à moi ne vous conviendra pas forcément. Donc c’est à vous de tester, d’essayer et d’apprendre de quoi vous avez besoin et envie, ce qui marche pour vous. Le printemps reste toutefois un bon moment pour faire une détox du foi, mais encore une fois à votre manière, ce qui fonctionne pour vous.  
 
Le printemps est aussi un moment qui nous invite à nous extérioriser plus, mais encore une fois, l’équilibre entre le  que vous passez avec les autres et les moments d’intériorité est très personnel ; c’est à vous de tester et de voir ce qui vous convient, sans vous comparer aux autres.
 
Observer ses pensées et ses paroles
Et bien sûr j’aimerais vous inviter à observer vos pensées et les mots que vous utilisez. J’entends souvent des gens parler de lutte, de bataille, de besoin de contrôler ses émotions, maitriser ses pensées, etc. En fait, quand nous nous écoutons, que nous accueillons et nous abandonnons à ce qui se présente, la vie commence à être plus fluide. Quand nous luttons contre une partie de nous-même, contre nos besoins et nos désirs, nous nions à notre corps et notre âme la possibilité de développer leur plein potentiel. Quand notre corps tombe malade, c’est en général parce qu’il essaie d’attirer notre attention sur quelque chose, de nous aider à nous rediriger là où nous sommes censés aller. Quand on ne peut pas dormir, c’est notre âme qui nous invite à repenser notre mode de vie, etc.

Se faire accompagner
Si vous avez besoin de soutien pour apprendre à vous écouter, comprendre les messages de votre corps, et de votre âme, alors faites-vous accompagner s’il vous plait ! Demander de l’aide n’est pas un signe de faiblesse, bien au contraire, cela demande du courage. Le passage peut être difficile, mais l’après est merveilleux.
Je serais ravie de vous soutenir. Soit en séance individuelle, soit en groupe. Ce dimanche j’organise une journée réservée à 6 femmes sur ce thème. Il reste de la place. Les infos sont ici

Je vous souhaite un magnifique printemps !
Sylvie

The weather has been very strange this year, with big changes in temperatures. There is no doubt that it takes its toll on the physical body, which needs to adjust, and on our capacity to deal with emotions, changes, fears, etc.

Connecting to the energy shift

In the Western world, Spring officially starts on March 20, but in Chinese medicine, it has already started. In Chinese medicine they actually have 5 seasons, and they rely on the “energetical” aspect of the elements, meaning for us exactly the same as for nature, the potential of blooming and opening up happens energetically weeks before materialising.

Springtime is therefore an important period of the year to pay attention to your health, take care of yourself in order to transition gently.

Resting and sleeping
Often when Spring arrives, we experience a change of mood. More sun means more time outside for a lot of people, a sense of renewal, new cycle, hope and joy. That is wonderful, of course. However, we might feel overtired and even though it can be surprising, it’s actually completely normal. For some reason it seems easier or maybe less taboo to accept to rest when we transition from Summer to Fall or from Fall to Winter, and yet we should also learn to rest when Spring arrives, and not put ourselves at higher risks of getting sick because we feel we “must” feel good now that the sun is out.

We tend to sleep more in winter as days are shorter; now that the days are becoming longer and longer, even though it’s a nice feeling, it’s important not to fall into the trap of thinking we need less sleep. We need to keep a good sleeping hygiene, meaning making sure to sleep well and sleep for long enough. Maybe even allow ourselves to go to bed a bit earlier than what we are used to, just by trusting our natural cycles without fighting too much.

When Springs arrives, we also want to go outside more, enjoy the sun, have a drink afterwork on a terrace, etc. That’s great, but as we are just coming back from winter, all our resources can be empty from “surviving” winter. Our immune system and Vitamin D levels might be quite low. We have slowed down a bit and we need to come back out of hibernation slowly and carefully, taking our time, just like Nature, again trusting our body and the signs.

Accepting, trusting your body, and learning to surrender rather than fight

So just like any difficult emotions, loss, changes, the key to transition smoothly is acceptance. Letting go of “should, must, have to” and listening to your physical sensations. I am not for any dogma or extreme and I also believe everyone is different. We all need to eat healthy and move our body for instance but what works for me, might not work for you. So I really want to encourage you to become your best friend, try things, think for yourself, feel what is right for you. Spring is a good time to check in on your liver though, and do a detox, again whichever one feels right to you.

Spring is when we are invited to go more outward, but again, it’s for you to find out what works, how much social time you want and need, in comparison to how much alone time you want.

Finally I’d like to invite you to watch your thoughts and the words you use. I often hear people saying life is a battle, or they need to control their emotions, tame their thoughts, etc. When we listen, stop, surrender, life flows. When we fight our true desires and needs, we deny our body and soul their potential to develop, grow and be happy. When the body gets sick, it’s often because it’s trying to show us a different path. When you can’t sleep, it means your soul is inviting you to rethink your way of life. Etc.

If you need support with all of this, please get some. Getting support is not a sign of weakness, it actually means you are brave, you want to change and I would be happy to help you with whatever you need.

Contact me to chat and check out my website. I have different options available for you, that we can tailored to your needs and your schedule.

I wish you a great Spring!

Sylvie
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