How much do you care about what other people think? And how much power do you give to your mind when you let it convince you they are right?
What intentions have you made for 2019? Personally, I have decided to stop giving so much importance to what people think about me and what I do, and to celebrate who I am more.
Maybe you wonder how... I have been working on myself for a very long time and I am constantly evolving and learning; I trust myself, my body and my intuition more and more everyday to make the right decisions and choose what works for me.
But like everyone, sometimes I choose to follow my mind instead of my guts, and listen to other people's opinions or judgments. However, each time I do so, I am mistaken... BIG TIME! And afterwards, I usually realise that whatever is right for the other person is not always good for me.
So when this happens, I obviously take time to reflect, send myself some love and forgive myself to learn from the experience.
Last time I went through something like this was very powerful, because I truly admired the person who was judging me and telling me what to do: gradually, I started doubting everything I was. And of course I love questioning things and thinking, which is probably why I listened to him and let him convince me he was right. EXCEPT HE WASN'T!
All the tensions and pain in my body were telling me so. I pretended not to see the signs because I wanted to create peace and harmony with that person. But at what cost? Well it was starting to cost me my joy, my happiness and some of the most important things in my life.
But I started becoming more aware as the signs were getting more and more present:
- I was having insomnia although I am somebody who usually sleeps very well
- My back was aching like hell although I very rarely have pain
- I almost had a panic attack- which I used to have but haven't had since 2009- and I can find calm easily nowadays, whenever I get stressed it doesn't last
- I always felt drained after spending time with him although I know I am usually full of energy when things are right
Indeed, there is always somebody around to tell you what to do or to judge you, and even if it's done with kindness and a good intention (it's for your good!) it doesn't mean you should believe or follow it!
I will also make myself a mental note to avoid doing this to other people as WE ALL DO IT! We all judge others and ourself, or have an opinion about so and so, all the time!
So what if we could stop this, and just go back to being, to follow our body, our desires, what is light and joyful for us, no matter what our mind and our friends (and our enemies) think?
In the end it's a choice. And of course I have plenty of tools to support you but the first thing is to realise what you are doing, how much you are impacted by others. Listen to yourself, observe how you feel when somebody gives you some advice, opinion or judgement. And then choose! It can only impact you if you decide it can.
If you do want to connect more to your guts, your body and your emotions, however, and learn to use your emotions to know and trust yourself, join my free webminar on Wednesday. Sign up here