What comes to your mind when you hear this word : « pressure »?
Personally I’ve been feeling pressured all my life : Pressure to be a good daughter, a good sister, pressure to get good grades, pressure to follow the rules, pressure to get married, pressure to have kids, pressure to get a proper job, to have a career ; pressure to buy a house, pressure to know how to cook, pressure to eat healthy and do sports, pressure to wear make-up, pressure to please others ; pressure to be unique and extraordinary and yet pressure to fit in a box.
Sometimes I felt so much pressure I felt like a pressure cooker on the verge of explosion!
I often need to take a step back and look at what I am doing to see if I am doing it because I really want to or because I feel pressured.
Most days I feel pretty free in my choices but sometimes I must admit I do feel a bit stuck and obliged to compel with some stupid rules. So I do my best to be as authentic as possible and do things the way I want ; I choose to do more things that raise my energy and fewer things that drag my energy. But it is not always easy.
What about you ? Where do you feel you are being most pressured in your life ? I think for me it has mainly been at work. It’s actually funny because I know the way people see me is either as unstable or totally free in that area.
I’ve never stayed in the same company more than 4 years. I love my freedom too much and I get bored quickly. So I wouldn’t say I am following the usual career path.
However I do feel the need (or the pressure?) to achieve something and to make my job worth something, useful, etc.
6 months ago I decided to go fully independent and I thought that was it. Pressure over. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. And yes this is true. I love my freedom. Having your own company is amazing. However it took only a few months before I started feeling this pressure again. Pressure to say yes or no, pressure to make the right choices, to do things right and to do the right things.
Last week I had this major breakthrough that I was really the only one pressuring myself and that I needed to let go. There is no wrong decision. There is just a decision. And you can always change your mind.
So what about you ? Who is pressuring you ? Yourself or others? Is it useful? Can you let go a bit and relax ? Do less and see what happens ? Make space to chill and enjoy the moment ? Life is short so how much space do you want to make for pressure?
How to let go?
As I am very aware of my emotions I can feel in a couple of minutes whether what I am doing is good for me or not. It’s really easy, my body tells me right away. And if you practice you’ll become quickly aware too. Just observe and listen. Which situations give you energy and make you feel good ? Which situations make you feel like shit ?
The next step might be more challenging sometimes. You can feel something is not right for you but you still go for it again and again because your mind is trying to tell you it is the « right » thing to do – because of your social or cultural background maybe ? Well, fuck that ! I choose to do more things that make me happy and fewer things that are « right ».
How do I do that? I take a breath. I listen to my heart. I have faith. I feel the fear and the pressure. I talk to them: thank you for being here, but you are part of the old me. Now I choose faith. I choose to let myself of the hook. I choose to let you go. I believe in myself. I believe in my choices. I trust my intuition. I trust my heart. Dear mind, I know you are trying to help, but you are not. So let me be.
And then I go dancing in the grass :-)
How about you? What are you going to do to let go of pressure today?